First
thing first, what is a sanguine? Sanguine is a one of the four basic
temperaments of every human being, from the ancient to modern. Here’s a quick
explanation of the ‘four temperaments’ that i snatched from wikipedia:
“Four
temperaments is a proto-psychological theory that
suggests that there are four fundamental personality types, sanguine (optimistic and social), choleric
(short-tempered or irritable), melancholic
(analytical and quiet), and phlegmatic (relaxed and peaceful).”
Every
human being always have those 4 temperaments on them, with one or two more
dominants than the others. My dominant temper is as you know, sanguine,
followed by choleric, phlegmatic, and melancholic. If you still cannot figure
out what’s your temperaments, there are many tests out there that you can do to
figure it out. Here is the link to a simple temperament test that you might wanna do: http://personality-testing.info/tests/O4TS/
Back to
the main topic, shall we?
So, i
wrote this article based on my personal experience. I have a lack of interest
in my academic lessons at school, since my right brain is more dominant than the
left one. My parents have tried to motivated me but none of them worked. I
always do good on anything non-academic such as music and art which are my main
things in life, and that condition has made me so not interested in my academic
things, especially math.
One day,
i was at the point where my academic score are far below the standards and
there was only 1 year left in high school, which means, it was the one and only
time for me to fix everything so that i could get into a good university. And
at the same moment, i still had no interest to study but the circumstances
forced me to.
I
searched on google about self-motivate things then i found this site
ezinearticles.com and the writer wrote this in the article:
“Did you know that some horses
will follow you for a carrot, while other horses won't budge unless you whack
them with a stick? Well, people are also motivated by either carrots, or
sticks. Some people move towards goals. Other people move away from
consequences.
Sanguine and Choleric personalities tend to be
fast-paced and impulsive. If you dangle a carrot in front of them, they'll
probably jump at the carrot. On the other hand, Phlegmatic and Melancholic
personalities tend to be slower-paced and indecisive. To get them into gear,
you sometimes have to show them the sticky consequences of not taking a risk.”
And
i found it 100% true. A few days after i read that article, some of my seniors (who
is also my bestfriends) got into the best university in my country, and that
made me feel something different. It’s like, i am proud and happy for them, but
something in me just feels like losing. It’s just like i lose a battle that i
didn’t even join. After i thought about it for some time, i finally remembered
something that i didn’t even realize at the first place.
I
am a sanguine. My friends are the carrots for me. One of my weakness is i unconsciously
always want to be the center stage, and on the other hand my choleric side
wants me to be better than the other. I know that they’re my weakness, but i
decided to change them into self-motivation.
I
started to do something that was out of my league. I made my goals that consist
of a short-term, mid-term, and long-term goals. And then i wrote it in a sheet
of paper, decorated it until i’m happy with it, wrote some motivational quotes
such as “Have faith in yourself” or “Beauty without brain is nothing, so study
hard!”, and i also put some of my friends’s photos so that i can remind myself
that i don’t wanna be the worst of them.
My-2
months ago-self would obviously said that i’m crazy and those goals things are
unimportant. I found myself totally wrong.
Those
goals on the paper had helped me a lot. I started to study for my exams (in
case you’re wondering, i barely studied for my exams because mostly i always
cheated or just drew up the answers...) and i’m kinda happy with the results. Well
the results haven’t come out yet, actually. But i’m happy because i could fill
the answer way more easy than my previous exams. I minimalize cheating and that
makes me feels happy and proud of myself EVENTHOUGH i haven’t seen the
result...
So,
if you’re a sanguine, and you found yourself hard to motivate by the others,
maybe you should try to look around. Find people in your surroundings that do
much better than you do, and there is your carrot. Start to list your goals or
dreams, and put it in a wall or door or your vanity mirror, anywhere. Read it
everyday, and you’ll find something on yourself that push you to do good and
even better than your carrots.
I
hope you found this article helpful for you :)
See you on the next post!
xoxo,
Nedita <3
