PS: if you feel like you're not a sensitive person and you just cant deal with any of them, just skip this post cause this is not for you and it's definitely none of your interest. ;)
Update: I edit this article and changed all the "overly sensitive" into just "sensitive" because apparently i realized that everything that's 'over' or 'too much' is just not good.
Update: I edit this article and changed all the "overly sensitive" into just "sensitive" because apparently i realized that everything that's 'over' or 'too much' is just not good.
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well, hello to all of you, the sensitive people.
i know the term "sensitive" doesn't really have any exact meaning, since every one of us has our own standard for being sensitive. but if you've heard complaints about you being too sensitive, or if some people think you're a buzz killer cause you feel irritated by a simple joke, welcome to the club <3
first of all, being sensitive is just something natural. not many people is, well, consider themself as 'sensitive'. in fact, there are only a few among us all. unfortunately, many people see the sensitive trait as something bad, or even annoying, that some of them just can't deal with. it's totally okay. we all have our own standard of tolerance and we cannot force anyone to be comfortable around us.
but you, i'm talking to you. we all here have this trait inside us, either we want it or not. if anyone has ever disrespect you, or cannot tolerate you for being too sensitive, you should remember this: it is not your fault and it is totally fine. it's not our fault that our heart just feel too much, too deep, and our brain automatically think too much, it's not something that we can control. people can get mad for many reasons, having a friend that is too sensitive could be one of them. and it's not your fault, really. you didn't get to choose to born along with the sensitive trait inside you.
sometimes it sounds seriously bad. just like what i said before, some people cant tolerate you. some people think you're a buzz killer. some people said that you get irritated easily (which is true). you overthink every single thing, every single word that has been said to you. and sometimes, you feel disgusted by yourself-- why am i like this, why cant i be normal and just give no shit to what everyone has got to say, why does everything that i do seems so wrong, seems so extra that not everyone could handle it?
being a little too sensitive is natural, but its not a permanent trait. you can learn to relieve the sensitive-ness step by step (idk how but i think it could be trained). sometimes i agree that some of us really need to take a chill pill (we are so extra, you know) and while you figure out how to train yourself to do that... i want you to know that being sensitive is not about all-negativity. there are hidden perks of being a sensitive person that most of us haven't realized yet. fyi i didn't realize that too til the day i watched a TED talk about these overlysensitivethingies :))
for me, the perks that i have for being a sensitive drama queen are:
1. it's easy for me to recognize when someone's getting hurt by others (whether its by me or anyone else)
2. i do apologize, it's not a hard thing to do.
3. well, believe it or not, i'm not a great person when it comes to giving solutions but many people trusted me enough to tell me their personal problem, and this is something i will never take for granted. because of my sensitive-ness, i have the ability to just feel what they feel (even it's obviously not the same feeling) but the point is, (related to number 4)
4. it's easy for me to understand people. we the overly sensitive people obviously don't have the problem such as lack of empathy :)). thats why its easy for us to gain other people's trust.
5. we acknowledge the type of jokes that is just enough, not too much that it could possibly hurt other people's feelings.
6. some of us are a great listener.
well idk there must be a lot more perks of being sensitive but that's all i can think of for now. i am a sensitive person, and i accept it. i accept it because right now im in the middle of my own journey to love myself thoroughly, deeply, that i also have to learn to love my flaws too. i get used for being called annoying, or extra, well at the very first days those words really are hurtful to me. but now that i get used to it already, it doesn't feel as hurtful as it was. everytime i get hurt by anyone, i always remind myself that its okay. those are just words that came outta people's mouth, and none of them could ever describe who you are. you are the one who really know everything about you, and always remember that nobody could ever define you better than yourself.
xoxo
the annoying drama queen who's learning to not giving a fuck
